I don’t live to impress anyone, I’m not here to make you see me or hear me. I just do myself in the most honest, genuine and sincere way that I can. I work to live, and I work to explore the world. I don’t create projects for people to worship me by and follow me, I don’t dress up for people to adore me, and want to look at my pictures all day. I just try and be the most kind, empathetic soul you could rely on to be honest, and understanding when you need someone. I’m that person who hands back your wallet if you dropped it; it’s not because I’m holy or self righteous in the sense that I think I’m better than you, but because I know what it’s like to put myself in another persons shoes. I don’t want to live a life where I’m trying to fill a void. I want a life full of simple joys and the need to become closer with those I love and who love me back. I don’t want people to be jealous of me, and I don’t want to look around and be jealous of others either. I want to live in simplicity and content, and die with a clear conscience. That’s it.
One good reason as to why we should legalize weed in California is to cure hangovers.
Weed doesn’t give you hang overs.
Yes weed is similar to alcohol.
Being drunk makes you nonfunctional, weed can make you nonfunctional.
You shouldn’t drive, go to work, or operate dangerous machinery while drunk or high.
Alcohol is something consumed best in camaraderie , and weed can be used for that too…and much more.
BUT, weed will never kick you in the head and poison your guts, so that you can’t function the following day.
Wow, you have amazing style! it’s all from Forever 21 right? No? oh its all Buffallo Exchange stuff that happened to be from Forever 21.
Yeah, it’s really fun standing outside of this bar/show/art show just smoking a cig around a group of girls with red lipstick and guys with beanies and mustaches it’s the best ambiance. I really like not participating at shows, and not actually hitting the bar.
Yeah talking about vapes is so interesting, clouds this clouds that.. I love talking about clouds made from my vaporizer and how I made my vape, it’s like anime gundam wings and stuff.
I get the best naps after listening to a good Kim Kardash gossip story.
I’m sorry you broke up with yet another person after a few months. Maybe just try harder next time? Maybe don’t put out so soon?
Why yes I’m in a sarcastic mood today :)
You are more than…
What you went to school for.
What your secret talents are.
How good you look.
Success isn’t in perishable things.
Success is bettering yourself everyday.
Letting go of grudges.
Caring about none materialistic things.
Noticing the little things.
Realizing you are privileged.
Learning true patience.
Quieting your mind.
Controlling your emotions.
Realizing your faults.
Saying I’m sorry and genuinely mean it.
Consciously being aware of your surroundings.
Learning to really listen.
Think more about others.
Knowing when to let go.
Knowing how to love unconditionally.
Knowing how to breath [most people don’t].
Knowing how to put more emphasis into nature.
Knowing self discipline…
Success is being content through finding peace of mind and heart.
WE all have a lot of work to do. You’re not successful; it’s a life long practice.
I always question people who are always happy. Personally, I find that these people are all living good, and are all financially stable living it up in a western, first world kind of society.
It’s easy to have a jolly good time, and smile through life when you have good health, youth, and money.
It’s easy to constantly have a belly full of laughter when you have trust funds, or a lot of money saved up, and life has always gone your way.
It’s easy for you to say, don’t worry stay positive, when it’s not you in the bad situation living the hard life.
So you lost a parent? A child? How about losing both parents, or having your entire innocent family shot in the mist of fire, or having your daughter kidnapped for child trafficking, and your son kidnapped to kill for a corrupt civilian militia, or you and your child dying from drinking malaria filled water.
Now I don’t wish anything bad come your way… but maybe then you will be more awakened before you try to shove your so-called optimism upon someone without actually knowing what it’s like to be in their shoes.
It’s just easy to be happy when you have it good and are ignorant about the world or apathetic towards the world around you. You know the saying “ignorance is bliss.”
So, you have divorced parents, and damn you couldn’t crash your one class, oh no you have to downsize your house for a studio, and get rid of a car. Don’t worry you have your other car, and you have the option to save money, go to college, or the option of a job, and you have food, water, shelter, friends, family, and living parents, and a home to live in and return to, and all the extra shit like money for leisure shopping and eating out like the usual westernized glutton.
Good for you that you are happy, nearly effortlessly.
I’m just as lucky as the next schmuck. Obviously, I have the luxury to sit on my ass and blog as I please sipping lattes.
I want to give credit to those who remain happy even though their life seams hopeless, no options for school, no medical help, no clean water and food, education, a job, to those who have lost everything, to orphans who never got adopted and still made it, to ghetto families who really made it and didn’t bring the ghetto with them, to those rare people who gave up a convenient life to serve as volunteers around the world or who gave it up to find the meaning in a simple happy life on the way to enlightenment. You are undeniably incredible, and I am proud of your happiness.
To most of you, It’s not that you are happy; it’s that you are experiencing a privilege.
Stop asking me why I don’t want kids.
Why do you want kids?
It made more sense for people in older societies to want kids. Kids were basically a form of security, almost money if you will. The more kids that you had, then the more life insurance you had [kids to take care of you], and the more people you had to help you with your farm or business. More sons to help the family branch out [via sperm], and more allies and money to make [via trading daughterss vaginas away to be wed]. Also, there was less medical knowledge to maintain living children past the age of 10, so you made like rabbits to produce spawn that could withstand your whole life. Pretty selfish if you ask me since it’s all about your own well being and not really thinking about what life that human will want when they grow up.
So, I get that some of those traditions stuck around, people still want kids to have “security.” They still expect their kids to want to stay home in their adult ages and play care giver to mama and papa; which is all dandy. I love my parents, but this is the 21st century-western culture that I live in. We are passed growing farms, and most of us aren’t a part of mom and pop shop/merchant thing to continue the family legacy, so there has to be an understanding of the new centuries need for knowledge and the quest for self exploration and discovery without the need of children, ever. Not to be crude, but we have really great nurses to care give to our parents. Hypothetically, if I had kids it wouldn’t offend me to have me be put in a convalescent home. I would be offended if they just left me helpless in my empty home to die.
No one that I know who has kids has ever given me a good reason as to why I should have kids [not that I would take it into consideration].
Here are all the things that people say to me…
1) you should totally do it, it’s so much fun.
HAH! Studies show that kids actually bring you much more hard times and depression than joy. Plus, who actually has kids for fun?!
2) Procreation is our will.
Okay let me just tell you how much we have procreated, we’ve procreated to 7.046 billion people and that’s not including an estimated 2 billion of those who were too far in the jungle or mountains, or too poor to be included into the sensus data. [It was 9 billion before all the earthquakes, and tsunamis around the world.] We are procreating so much that more than 80% of these people have no clean water or food or a sufficient home because there actually isn’t enough supply to go around. We should procreate wiser and more efficiently if we are going to claim this reason.
3)Having children is selfless.
Okay I agree that it is selfless for a woman to use her body to carry a child, and possibly die from birthing. I agree that parents do have to give up a lot for their children.
But, isn’t it selfish to create your own kids when there are about 99 million homeless children around the world, or and then there are all the kids who need foster care? You just have to create your own kids? Why not adopt kids? it’s much more selfless to take in another persons child and actually give it unconditional love as if you were the biological parent?
Plus, I plan on teaching kids of all ages and treating them as if they were my children [that’s my adoption option with more than 3 kids to care for]. That’s enough parenting for me, I’m sure maybe it’s even more valuable parenting than most parents today could ever offer [everyone seams to have kids on accident or doesn’t even know where to start or how to handle the bumps in the paths].
4) You’ll never experience the joy of birthing.
Warning it’s going to get graphic…
I have a mean period for 5-8 days once a month, my tits painfully grow a cup and half bigger. I get nausea, back pain, joint paint, and I get extremely fatigued. Adding, it hurts like death whenever I go get a pap smear. Guys a pap smear is a mandatory bi-annual check up when a lady has to get her vag literally cranked open with metal clamps and then banged by a gyno to feel around and see if your cat car is running as it should be. No thank you, I would rather not experience birth because I already hate the basics. Really though, no woman [or man] likes having a loose goose, or a stitched up one from birthing, or stairing at a 6 inch wide brown belly scar.
5)But, what will you do when you are old?
Umm.. enjoy life. If applicable I will still be enjoying my functioning body and doing the things that I enjoy doing. If I’m dying, hey I will be dying with a caregiver helping through the process.
6)My kids gave me a reason to live.
That’s good you found something to make you feel complete. I already feel pretty complete, I know what I want to do with my life. I have other ambitions than sitting around trying to get pregnant to have something to do with myself.
7)What if you regret not having kids?
I rather regret not having them, than have them and then regret them.
8)Having kids keeps you young.
Not true, having kids actually ages you a lot faster. If your argument was that it keeps you mentally youthful then that may be true for some. But for me, it’s okay I still have my fire from youth [I haven’t gone lame], kids aren’t necessary.
9)It’s a social reason, to go out with your kids and hang out with other parents.
I don’t need kids to be social.
10)Your body is capable of having kids, so why not?
A gals vagina is capable of stretching to house two penis in it at the same time… why not? Home girl, just because you can, doesn’t mean you have to.
11)but, they would be so cute, you don’t want to see cute mini you running around?
That’s straight up narcissistic, and not a valid excuse to have kids.
I have my reasoning to not want kids.
I’m not saying that you shouldn’t have kids, I’m saying stop thinking that everyone should have kids.
I will be expecting hate male for this.
Anonymous: you're incredible!
Holy cow, thank you sweet kid!
Mostly bad, good for some.
I’m not exactly pro it, but I’m not at all against them.
In my opinion, the use of recreational drugs is not exactly needed. Obviously, they are recreational guys. However, I don’t think that people should have irresponsible fun or motivation if that’s what you are in it for.
I do feel that if you are looking to drugs for inspiration and to pull yourself out of your ass, then you should really look deep within you first. Try and answer your own problems and questions. Why are you so lame feeling? But, if you really can’t get to that point then, maybe a drug will wake you up. Usually, it leads to a downward spiral because most people who lose themselves to self issues have addictive personalities and weak will power, so then it is most definite that you are going to become a drug addict dummy. Heed this primordial warning.
But, if you take drugs seriously… yes recreational drugs should be taken seriously [common sense], know your drug, know where it comes from, what it’s supposed to look like, smell like, taste like, what it’s supposed to do [chill you out, speed you up, make you see/feel things], is it grown in nature or laboratory, know what the dosage is for your height and weight, know your tolerance level, know how often you should/n’t take it, know the damage it can do to you and actually care about the possible health and brain issues, and which ones are the most deadly and addictive and can mess up your offspring [don’t fucking do coke, crack or heroine you idiots], especially know what happens to yourself when you stop using the drug. Whatever it is, do it with a trustworthy and knowledgable friend if you are still a noob.
I strongly feel that drugs are actually for the lame brain, the sleepy mind… the one’s who lost that good feeling from youth. I mean cause there are people who can go their whole lives feeling content and they have a blast through life without the need of a substance to make them have a good time and feel at their best or most creative. But, then I guess some people just can’t, they thrive on drugs like: caffeine, weed, alcohol, LSD, molly, hallucinogens, etc… I guess we can include cigarettes, but I think we should classify that as poison instead. It’s lame; it doesn’t even get you high, it’s a lame buzz that does permanent health damage… okay I digress. Hey, I’m not one of those lucky fuckers who doesn’t need a substance. I can go a couple of weeks drinking a bottle of petite syrah to myself every night, and I never go a day without a form of caffeine. I usually don’t pass up a good offer of that top shelf. Though, I can live without it if I had to, let’s just add that in. I know you guys have that in you too.
Let’s take note that…
Some of the best artists: musicians, painters, poets, actors, singers, heck even scientists used recreational drugs. They were wonderful geniuses.
Still, don’t you ever forget…
that most of them are dead from their drug of choice.
Please, please, please show me your flaws.
Ooh they are so bad, it’s so good. I appreciate those signs of living, I appreciate the live-er characterized by soul.
I am attracted to people with flaws, people who live. Beautiful people are all death, all robotic living for the physical. Nothing, but walking photos.
I’m interested in freckles, scars, birthmarks, wrinkles and bruises of the heart and body. How did you get them? Why do you have them? Why are you so intriguing? I’m interested in how being short, lanky, ethnic, mixed, style-less, ‘strange’, fat, thin, tan, tatted, pierced, or being simple made you feel you had to fight for something in life. I’m interested in all the reasons why you don’t care to conform to the model standard of beauty. Tell me what you’ve gone and done, tell me how you’ve changed and what you have gained, tell me all the places that shook your life? Make me hate you, make me love you. Make me feel change, make me feel different. All these varieties are an adventure of the mind. You should be more appreciated. You are exciting.
Well, it’s as easy as you want it to be.
We make the choices to make our lives more difficult than it can be.
Yes, some people have harder lives than others, it’s okay to acknowledge that. But, let’s not lose focus, you still can choose to make your life easier. It’s about being conscious in your decisions and being more appreciative of the greater small things in life.
So, let’s say you discovered the possibility of having some kind of cancer [like me]. You are allowed to feel stressed, and vent it out, take a few months if you must. Still, remember even at the worst case scenario of you actually having it, well, maybe you still feel healthy. You still have a fighting chance, you still can opt for insurance to help you, or to still try and live your life normally, but with healthier applications like watching your diet, exercising more, choosing to feel good that you are still able to live in a house, and be thought of by family and friends. It’s likely that if you are in a situation like this and if you are on a computer to be reading my post, then you most likely are still living good. Right? You are under a shelter, and you have the luxury of a computer and internet. You are still a capable and functioning human being in todays society. You can choose to not worry too much about crap, and live life gracefully with an eager courage. Don’t just give up! What’s the point in letting your mind bring you misery? What good comes from that? Well this is example is just one flash of a persons life. No matter how bad your life is, you can always find something to appreciate and find things to make better. Swimming in sorrow, or disguising your void in materials or arrogance will get you nowhere.
My point is our choices and decisions can make our lives better; physically, mentally, and spiritually, just open your minds eye.
The obvious: taking care of your health by eating more fresh fruits and veggies, dining at home by learning to cook [it’s a hobby that is healthy and saves you money (I know many of you have money stress)], exercising to keep your joints and muscles up to par and keeps your heart and mind at their best [not mention you get your sexy back], eating more diverse because eating too much of the same stuff isn’t good for our bodies, sleep more less caffeine, drink mostly water, quit cigarets [it’ll save you a boat load of money too], have less alcohol or switch to red wine, rest, take up a hobby for down time to stay sharp and be less boring….
Less obvious: stop being greedy [cause most of you buy shit thinking it was necessary and you don’t see your consumerism as hoarding], choosing to do things instead of complain about them, choosing to tolerate, choosing to stay quiet or speak up, choosing to ask for help if you really need it, or get it done yourself, *choosing to not worry if you can’t do anything about it, appreciate that quiet time eating alone, heck just silent time to notice that you are breathing; to notice the world around you in all it’s glory and destruction that we can change, how about appreciating hot water [clean water even], appreciate a flushing toilet, appreciate being able to eat junk food, all the little things….
Decisions should be made on the value of importance, and imperatives. Being impulsive may be fun and okay to do occasionally, but can often be ignorant; mostly hurting yourself in the long run. Use your mind.
We are human beings, we have magnificent brains in which we only use a tiny percentage of it. I say we practice utilizing it more and being more conscious of the things we do: you can choose to better yourself and contribute in whatever big or small ways to humanity by doing so.
Be more conscious and be more present, it takes effort at first, then it becomes second nature. It will make your life a lot more easier, and you will feel better about yourself.
I’m talking about the foundations of a happy life; the choices that revolve around this list:
2) appreciate things more in your own life, don’t be so serious.
Two things, how hard is that?
Take it easy homies.